Sask. musician Jeffery Straker on love, loss and his 'life-changing' final moments with his mom

Jeffery Straker was by his mother's bed when she diedin hospital on Feb. 24.

"It's otherworldly, in a way. Mom's only 73, so I did expect I'd have about 20 more years or so. And then you don't," Straker told CBC'sSaskatchewan Weekend.

The Saskatchewan songwriter said for him, grief has been physical butit's not something often talked about.

"It's a feeling beyond sadness. It's like you've been handed two buckets of something really, really heavy that you can't put down, and you're sort of forced to walk around with them," Straker said.

"Through all that I'm surrounded by some really wonderful people and they've really helped me process and understand."

About two-and-a-half years ago, Beverly Strakerwent through chemotherapyto treat lymphoma.

The treatment was successful in fighting the cancer, but an infection led to septic shock. Someone with a stronger immune system might have been able to fend off what she couldn't, Straker said.

We told her repeatedly how much we loved her, because really, we really did.- Jeffery Straker

He takes some comfort in the fact he wasable to be there with her at the end of her life.

"My brother and sister and I were really lucky to be able to be with her her last couple days in the hospital, and it was really beautiful," he said.

"Your life kind of flashes before your eyes. We told her repeatedly how much we loved her, because really, we really did.

"And it wasa great experience. It really was. I mean, you know, she said it back. That was really meaningful."

Beverly,a person of faithwhoattended a United Church, "said she wasn't scared. She wasn't scared to die," Straker said.

"It really helped me. It comforted me, I guess,in the long run, although it's still hard to think about but she was comforted by that," he said.

"And we don't talk about this as a society like, we're all terrified of death, was one thing I realized in this process. But seeing it happen was actually quite life changing. It's amazing."

Straker said the biggest lesson he'll carry on from his mother is simply to be a good person.

"It almost seems like practically everyone she encountered, touched in her time has reached out and said, 'Oh my God, what an amazing soul," he said.

"It really makes you realize that at the end of the day, there is nothing more you can ask for. It really puts what we're here for into perspective," said Straker.

While he says it's something he's tried to do in his life, Straker says "the gift she gave me is to go forth with even more of like, leave this place a little better than we found it."

A memorial was held for Beverly at the community hallinPunnichy, Sask., on March 9. Inlieuof flowers, the family is requesting donations be made to the KinsmenTelemiracleFoundation.