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Former Cape Breton student says school guidance counsellor saved his life

A mental health advocate who attempted suicide when he was a teen growing up in Sydney, N.S., says people should 'protest in the streets' if guidance counsellor and school psychologist positions are cut.

Mental health advocate Mark Henick talks about his journey to recovery after suicide attempts

Mental health advocate Mark Henick said parents need to talk to their kids, be open and let the kids know they're a safe person they can speak with. (BizMedia Photo)

A mental health advocate who attempted suicide when he was a teen growing up in Sydney, N.S., said people should "protest in the streets" if the Cape Breton Victoria Regional School Board goes ahead with proposed cuts to some of its guidance counsellor and school psychologist positions.

"It would be a grievous mistake if the school board were to withdraw or otherwise limit mental health services to students," saidMark Henick, whose TED Talk,Why we choose suicide,has been viewed almost 3.6 million times.

He credits his former school guidance counsellor with saving his life.

Henickspoke this week in the wake of three middle schoolstudents dying by suicide in the Sydney area.

"The toll and the impact that has on the families, friends, communities of the people who knew and loved these young people, it's staggering," said Henick.

'Ruthless bullying'

Henickstarted experiencing symptoms of what he now knows was depression in elementary school.

"When you're already an at-risk youth, when you're already vulnerable, it seems to attract people who want to attack that," he said. "So I experienced ruthless bullying throughout my junior high school career."

By the time he reached his mid-teens, Henick had attempted suicide multiple times.

On one occasion, hesaid he met with the guidance counsellor and during the meeting, he tried to kill himself.The guidance counsellor took action and physically saved his life.

A photograph of Mark Henick when he was in elementary school in Sydney, Cape Breton. (Submitted by Mark Henick)

On Thursday, Justice Minister MarkFureypromised a newanti-cyberbullyinglaw will be introduced this fall when ProvinceHouse resumes sitting.

The government will also be sending youth mental health expertDr. Stan Kutcher to Cape Bretonto talk with families, young people, schools and health providers about what's needed to address mental health concerns.

A hard road, but worth it

If he could go back in time and talk to his teen self, Henick saidhe would try to convince himself that depression and mental illnesses lie.

"They tell you that you're worthless. They tell you that it's always going to be this way. That you'll never recover. That nobody cares about you. Those are lies," said Henick.

He said young people should know that recovery from most mental health problems and illnesses is not only possible, it's expected when people get the help that they need.

"Because you feel this way today it doesn't mean that you are always going to feel this way," said Henick.

Mark Henick delivers his TEDxTalk. (Parasol Photo)

"It's gonnabe a hard road, you have to really clawyour way up the mountain of recovery sometimes, but it's worth it when you get to the top."

Henick attributes his own recovery to taking charge of his life and his vision for what hewanted that life to be.

"When I was able to decide that I wasn't going to be silenced, that I wanted to speak up about my struggles and really ask for and demand the help that I needed rather than wait for the system to change ... when I found that passion and that purpose, that's really what's driven my recovery all these years later."

What can parents do?

Henick said parentsneed to take the risk of suicide seriously and to never discount it as just a phase.

He said parents should talk to their kids, be open and let the kids know they're a safe person they can speak with.

"Some of the things that they tell you are going to be uncomfortable. They're going to be scary sometimes as well. But validate that. Thank them for sharing these really difficult things with you," he said.

"Don't assume that they know that you love them."

If you are in distress or considering suicide, there are places to turn for support. Nova Scotia's Mental Health Mobile Crisis Team can be reached at (902) 429-8167 or Kids Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868. TheCanadian Association for Suicide Preventionalso has information about where to find help.