At a traditional Nigerian wedding in St. John's, I finally saw my vibrant culture in my new home

This First Person column is written by Esther Aina,a linguist and educator living in St. John's.For more information about CBC's First Person stories, please seethe FAQ.

After spending over sixyears in Canada, I was recently transported back home to Nigeria as I took in the vibrant tapestry of my culture at a traditional Nigerian wedding in St. John's.

It was a Saturday, and as a popular saying in Nigeria goes, "Saturdays are for owanbe."

Owanbe, a term coined by the Yoruba people of Nigeria, refers to elaborate party ceremonies of all forms, be they weddings, birthday parties, graduations or any life event Nigerians deemworthy of celebration.In Nigeria, every weekend is typically an owanbe weekendfilled with reasons to rejoice and attend lively parties.

Contrasting with the often dull weekends I have experienced since moving to St. John's, this particular ceremony would emerge as a resounding tribute to my culture.

All around me I could hear my local dialectand traditional songs that I hadn't heard since I left Nigeria.

A friend of mine, Toluwani Familusi, was tying the knot and I was one of her aso ebi ladies (the term refers to the dresses worn by the bridesmaids). She chose women who had played significant roles over the course of her life and our duty was to support and celebrate with her as she was led to her husband's family.

We were adorned in our cream and gold dresses that had beenintricatelydesigned and sewn in Nigeria and werefitted and adjusted by Nigerian tailors in Canada. While we celebrated, we made sure Toluwani was cheerful and in good spirits throughout the day.

This wedding was unique as it involved two different ethnic groups in Nigeria; Toluwani is Yoruba while her husbandEkeneOkoyeis Igbo. They have different languages, culture andtraditions but as Ekenewas marrying a Yoruba woman, tradition dictated he needed to conform to the bride's customs for the wedding ceremony. It was my first time witnessing an intertribal wedding, and I enjoyed the display of Yoruba and Igbo cultures and traditions.

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Intertribe marriages are not uncommon, but I believe living in diasporahas made it easier for Nigerians like myselfto see ourselvesas primarilyNigerians in Canada, without specific tribal, cultural or ethnic distinctions. According to the Nigerian Canadian Association of Newfoundland and Labrador, there were more than 2,000 Nigerian Canadians in the province as of 2021,and the number continues to grow.

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On a crowded and colourful wedding dance floor, you can see the story of the Nigerian community in St. Johns. Its a story beautifully captured in an Atlantic Voice radio documentary titled To Grow in Love. In this video excerpt., we meet the bride and groom and feel the excitement of their big day.

Like a typical Nigerian wedding, this was a three-in-oneevent: the traditional wedding, which began at 8 a.m.;thechurch wedding; and, finally, the unforgettable reception.

The traditional wedding kicked off with guests trooping in, adorned in traditional attire that signified which family they were representing.

The bride's family, in their green and cream ensembles, danced in with their alaga ijoko (the traditional MC and spokesperson of the bride who makes sure all the rites are performed properly). The alaga ijoko led the bride's family and friends, accompanied by traditional talking drums, dancing and singing praises to the beat of the drum about the familytheir virtues, theirheritage and their unwavering love for the bride.

Then the alaga iduro (the groom's MC) led the groom's family and friends into the hall in a similar fashion, singing praises about the Okoyes' Igbo heritage, wealth and vast ability to take care of Toluwani's needs.

Thenit was time for the groom's entrance. As I stood in a room with the other aso ebi ladies and the bride, who wasshielded from the groom's view, I absorbed the sounds of drums, singing, dancingand celebration as the groom, accompanied by his friends, entered the hall to declare his intentions to Toluwani's family.

The rituals included scrutiny by the alaga ijoko to ensure he was fit to marry Toluwani. He and his friends respectfully prostrated themselves in front of the bride's parents, pleading with them to allow him her hand in marriage. They presented various gifts, including yams to symbolize abundance, honey to symbolize sweetnessand a dowry a monetary gift that was later returned to emphasize that the bride was not being sold.

As the moment arrived for the bride to emerge and be presented to her new family, the venue was filled with even more singing, dancing, shouting and the joyful tradition of showering money on the celebrant. The bride was accompanied by her entourage of girls in glittering aso ebi,complemented by matching shoes.

After the completion of cultural rites and the bride's release to her husband's family, Toluwani was given a new Igbo name, Ifeoma, symbolizing her acceptance into another tribe. Ekene also received a Yoruba name, Akinmayowa. Extending the tradition to the groom made the entire experience a breathtaking celebration of diverse cultures. I cherished every moment of being part of such a beautiful event and felt so proud to be Nigerian.

Oh, how I'd missed immersing myself in this kind of cultural atmosphere! The few Nigerian weddings I've attended in Newfoundlandhave skipped the traditional segments for various reasons, includingcelebrating them elsewhere soattending this complete and authentic Nigerian wedding event in Canadawas a truly magical experience.

We transitioned to the church ceremony, which, given the Christian background of both families, was as important as the traditional one. I joined the choir members to sing solemn hymns and beautiful renditions and I was moved to tears as I watched Toluwani's father walk her down the aislein her elegant lacywedding dress. In the sacred ambience of the church, the couplereceived blessings for their holy matrimony, witnessed by God, familyand friends.

Finally, we reached the most fun part of the event:the reception. The Mount Pearl community centre had been transformed into a lavish banquet hall, adorned with opulent decorations and an air of sophistication. Securing a venue was a significant challenge during the wedding planning; many places wouldn't allow food from other vendors, yet they couldn't cater Nigerian delicacies.

A delightful array of dishes from Ashabi Kitchennete awaited us, featuring the almighty jollof rice no Nigerian party is complete without jollof rice, efo riro (vegetable sauce), porridge, pounded yam and small chops.

Atlantic Voice26:10To Grow In Love

For the first time in the seven years she's lived in St. John's, Esther Aina was finally able to see her vibrant culture on full display at her friend's big, traditional Nigerian wedding. Here is Esther Aina's documentary To Grow In Love.

I marvelled at the sight of people seated in their exquisite attire. The band playedand sang songs echoed in English, Yorubaand Igbo languages. The DJ orchestrated the entrance of the bridesmaids, groomsmenand the couple, creating an atmosphere we fondly call gbedu,which translates to "non-stop dancing."

To bring the ceremony to a close, the couple added a personal touch to the celebration by singing a love song they composed, ending an event that embraced the full spectrum of Nigerian wedding customs.

I thoroughly enjoyed myself and look forward to more displays of this cultural richness in the beautiful province I now proudly call home. These celebrations not only allow Nigerians to uphold their traditions and showcase their heritage to the world, but they also provide invaluable opportunities for the younger generation, including second-generation immigrants, to learn and experience the customs practised back home.

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