'I don't want to see him die': Winnipeg woman fighting to visit COVID-positive husband in ICU

The wife of a Winnipeg man in intensive care with COVID-19 is fighting for somecompassion in a hospital policy that is keeping her from her husband at a time she says he needs her most.

Genevieve Funk-Unrau, 59, believes the sound of her voice and her touch will help bring her 66-year-old husband, Neil, out of his coma, but she's not allowed to visit him at the St. Boniface Hospital intensive care unit where he's being cared for.

"It's so hard to be away from him while he suffers through this on his own. I know the staff are wonderful, they're awesome, but they're not me. And I think he needs just my help there. We're pretty connected and it's super hard. And being herewithout him is really hard," she said.

While Neil's lungs have healed considerably since he was admitted two weeks ago, she said he hasn't woken up as expected after he was taken off of sedation medication.

"They would like to take him off the ventilator once he wakes up. That's why I'm just thinking, what he really needs is for me to be there to help encourage him to wake up, to be part of this healing team so he can come home to us."

The couple Genevieve, a social worker, and Neil, aMenno Simons College faculty member specializing in conflict resolution returned from a trip to Cuba on March 15. They have two adult daughters.

Genevieve was given a test immediatelyfor the virus, which she neededbefore she could return to work. That testcame back positive on March 17. She recovered at home while continuing toself-isolate.

When her husband tested positive on March 27, he had a fever and low oxygen levels, so he was admitted to St. Boniface Hospital.

Public health nurses told Genevieve she had fully recovered on March 31, a couple of days after Neil was transferred to ICU and put on a ventilator. She hasn't had any symptoms for more than two weeks, but says the ICU doesn't allow visitors except for compassionate reasons, in situations where someone is dying.

"He's not going to give me COVID. I'm not going to give him COVID. So it's a moot point. And I just want that changed because there's a policy there that doesn't apply to our situation," she said, adding no one can replace her unique role in his healing.

However, Dr. Brent Roussin, Manitoba's chief public health officer, said there hasn't been enough research done to determine whether someone who has already had the disease, and has recovered, is immune.

"We probably couldn't put much weight on that specifically right now, because we still don't have all the data on whether this confers immunity," he said during a daily COVID-19 briefing on Saturday.

"In general, we have strict visiting rules for the protection of everyone,"Roussin said."It's part of our overall plan."

Genevieve said she understands the safety reasons for the policy, but doesn't want others to be in the same situation down the road.

She wrote letters toRoussin and Manitoba Health Minister Cameron Friesen on Friday, asking that an exception be made in the policy banning hospital visitors during COVID-19, but has not received a reply. She said health-care workers understand and are empathetic,but recite the same policy to her whenever she asks to see her husband.

"I just want them to not just tell me again why I can't go. I want them to write some policies, protocols, whatever, and to address the needs of those who have recovered and now need to see their loved ones."

She's convinced being able to visit Neil would help.

"Just being a presence there we're quite attached. We've been married for 34 years. I think just having my voice there, my encouragement, my touch will just help him to remember what to come back for, and to really fight this and fight his way out of this fog."

She said the health-care team keeps her updated on Neil's condition by phone every day, and doctors told her that he may have had a series of strokessomething they're testing for.

If allowed to visit, she would take the same precautions as health-care staff with hand-washingand personal protective equipment, she said, and would not come into contact with any other patients.

In a statement, a Winnipeg Regional Health Authorityspokesperson said that they can't discuss individual patients with members of the public, including the circumstances of whether they can or cannot have particular visitors and what might prevent a particular person from visiting.

Manitoba Shared Health chief nursing officer Lanette Siragusa has said exceptions to current visitor restrictions will be made for compassionate reasons on a case-by-case basis, as determined by a facility manager.

"The visitor restrictions do leave room for compassionate reasons. Specifically, we wrote those with the intention that if someone's at end of life, that they are not by themselves," she said at Saturday's briefing.

In those cases, she encourages people to contact the hospital directly to see if an exception can be made.

"Absolutely it's [on a] case-by-case basis," Siragusasaid.

"I would feel that they're being compassionate if they let me go in now," said Genevieve, "and see my husband now, even before he's dying.

"I don't want to see him die."

A nurse held the phone up to her husband's ear during a recent video chat, she said, and his face reacted when he heard her voice.

Neil is the mediator, she said, but she's thefighter, and she won't let him die without doing everything she could to save him.

"If there's not a risk, then be compassionate and let us work on this. Make me an example, whatever, test me to make sure I'm OK. They need to not just hide behind [that] language and really show us, what does that mean," she said.

"What he really needs is for me to be there."