'They aren't alone': Families of those who have disappeared empathize as search continues for Eduardo Balaquit

As the search for Eduardo Balaquitexpands beyond Winnipeg city limits, Wilma Derksen prays.

Police have expanded their search for the Winnipeg man to the town of Arborg, 115 kilometres north of the city, and say they believe the 59-year-old father was the "victim of a crime" before he disappeared on June 4.

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Derksenand her husband, Cliff, know all too well the horror and panic of searching for a lost loved one. Their daughter, 13-year-oldCandaceDerksen, disappeared on her way home from school in November 1984. Her frozen body was found in a storage shed the following January.

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"I just remember the panic. There was a sense of panic and confusion. What do we do? What do we do?" Derksen said.

"Just the panic of wanting to know the answers."

Cliffcombed nearby streets after Candace's disappearance, searching frantically, while his wife drove up and down, scouringstreetsin the neighbourhood.

"As he was walking he just remembers screaming. That primal scream. This isn't supposed to be happening. This is horrific. Thisis unknown and it's really important to find the answers in that desperation," said Wilma Derksen.

It's that desperation that makes her heart reach out to the Balaquitfamily in prayer and thought.

Despite the fact the homicide unit has now taken over the investigation, Balaquit's son is still hopefulhis father willbe found alive.

Eduardo Balaquit's van was found near his workplace, with the passenger window broken. His cellphone was still in the vehicle and some of his personal belongings were found on the ground outside.

Derksenremembers the deep acheof making the transition from the surreal to what she calls a "new normal" in the early days of the search.

"As you are searching in those early days, thereis this kind of split, where you go into almost a grief of wanting to prepare for the worst newsbut yet not let go of the hope of the good news. There is this huge confusionand energy, and yet no energy. I remember being a big hollow swirl. Empty."

'How do we live in the unknown?'

As the search for Candace entered its sixth week, Derksen felt an internal shift.

"You create a new normal. You can't live in suspension too long. We will create an artificial kind of structure in the suspense. I remember starting to do that, saying, 'OK, now how do we live in the unknown?' But there is still that split mind that you really don't want to think about the details, you are more absorbed in the inner turmoil," she said.

Yet finding out her daughter had been killed, she says, wasn't as horrible as not knowing if she was alive somewhere, unprotected and suffering.

"I remember the day her body was found. We couldn't believe how relieved and how wonderful and how happy we were that we found her. Oh my word, this is misplaced happiness, you know?And then we would go into the grief. A huge rollercoaster of emotion," recalls Derksen.

Uncertainty lingers for other families

As horrible as that day was for the Derksen family, there are others who have not had that sense of relief, including the families of Thelma Krull,Sunshine Wood and Kevin Dilk.

Dilk, a 50-year-old teacher, disappeared in November 2016, prompting searches by his family and the Bear Clan Patrol.

Sunshine Wood, then 16, vanished in 2004while going to high school in Winnipeg.

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"I am starting to feel like I may never see my daughter again," said her father, Anthony Wood.

"Police are still investigating. I get phone calls every month from the RCMP. I go back and forth, from hope to despair. I went crazy. Like, I keep asking myself, 'Where is she? What happened?'

"I can'taccept the thought of losing my daughter."

Next month will mark the third anniversary of Thelma Krull's disappearance. The 57-year-old grandmother disappeared while on a walk in July of 2015.

A tip to police on the first anniversary led to them announcing a potential suspect. A composite sketchwas released but no arrests have been made.

"My mom is always in my thoughts and I miss her daily," Lisa Besser, Krull's daughter, said in an written statement to CBC News Friday.

"And while we try, there has been no real closure. While so many people can come together in a community and help search and call in tips, it can't stop until the answers are found."

She urges anyone with information on Balaquit's disappearanceor her mother's, or any other missing personscase, to come forward.

"As hard as it may be to find out what happened, it's also hard not knowing and continually wondering."

For now, she said she appreciates the efforts of investigators in her mother's case, and says her "thoughts and prayers are with the Balaquit family and friends."

"We know how scary and horrible this situation is and I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. Anytime we hear about another missing person in Winnipeg (which sadly we are hearing way too often) it brings us back to the worst time of our lives."

Balaquit'ssons have been holding their own searches in a race against time, hoping to find their father alive.

While her thoughts are with the Balaquit family, Derksenwon't contact themfor a very specific reason.

"I learned that I bring the reminder that the story doesn't end well. And so as long as there is hope we want to entertain the hope," she said.

"I do have the answers I was looking for, thankfully, after 33 years. I am surprised by the joy in knowing. There is tremendous peace in that," she said.

She hopes the Balaquit family will also find that peace.

"I hope there is an ending to this quest for them that they will find the answers they are looking for. And then I hope as a city we continue to support them as they come to grips what whatever answers might not be good. Winnipeg has a way of showing they care in little things, such as prayers, words, thoughts and gestures.

"They need to know they aren't alone."

Anyone with information on a missing persons case can contact the Winnipeg Police Service Missing Persons Unit at 204-986-6250.