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These parents turned agony of losing daughters to intimate partner violence into missions to help others

Brett Broadfoot of London, Ont., admits he didn't know much about intimate partner violence and its prevalence until his daughter was killed last month, but now he and his family have made it their purpose to advocate for survivors and those lost. They're among those who've turned grief into advocacy to heal themselves and others.

Canadian families say shared loss creates camaraderie, drives them to fight domestic abuse

Brett and Jessica Broadfoot at a vigil on July 24, 2024 for their daughter Breanna, 17, who was fatally stabbed in a case police have linked to domestic violence. They are among families advocating for education on intimate partner violence and legislative change.
Brett and Jessica Broadfoot are seen at a vigil on July 24 for their daughter Breanna, 17, who was fatally stabbed in a case police linked to domestic violence. They're among families advocating for education on intimate partner violence and legislative change. (Isha Bhargava/CBC)

WARNING: This story contains discussion of intimate partner violence.

Brett Broadfoot never imagined fighting against intimate partner violence would becomesuch a focal point in his life.

The London, Ont., father admits he didn't know much about the issue and its prevalence until his daughter was killedlast month. Now, Broadfoot and his family have made it their purpose to advocate for survivors and victims.

"Everybody in this situation needs a voice and I don't think there's been a loud enough voice out there toprotect peopleexperiencing intimate partner violence," Broadfoot told CBC News.

"We want to get that stigma away and help anybody that we can so they don't have to feel what our family feels."

Breanna, 17, died in hospital on July 18 two days after she was stabbedat a home in east Londonin a case police linked to domestic violence.An 18-year-oldwas shot by police, who say he had confronted them with a knife, and later died in hospital.

Since herdeath, Broadfoot said, thefamily has worked at learning more about the signs of intimate partner violence and resources available to those looking for support or to leave theirrelationships. The family hasalso started a foundation in Breanna's name to raise funds for victims' services and women's shelters.

"We've learned that a lot of people experiencing intimate partner violence are embarrassed. They don't know who to go toand our community doesn't recognize the signs because it's not being taught or talked about enough," said Broadfoot.

He said advocacy is also a way for the family to cope with thegrief.

"It gives you a focus and something to keep your mind onso you're not just constantly mourning every single moment. It's been an outlet that has been a little positive in such tragic times."

If I'm going to share my story, I want it to be for a reason, and that isto change people's lives.It allows me to get out some of my anger but it's also very healing.- Dan Jennings of Sault Ste. Marie, Ont.

It's a similar situation for Dan Jennings, whose daughter Caitlin, 23, was allegedlykilledby her boyfriend in London in July 2023. The case is before the courts and is still awaiting trial.

Jenningssaid he's become a voice for other families impacted by this violence and itallows him to keep his daughter's memory alive as more than just a statistic, he said.

"If I'm going to share my story, I want it to be for a reason, and that isto change people's lives.It allows me to get out some of my anger but it's also very healing," said Jennings, who lives in SaultSte. Marie.

"The more people who talk about what the problem is, takesaway power from the abusers and shifts it onto the people who are in that bad circumstance."

Jennings hasbecome a part of many community organizations workingto end domestic violence, including Angie's Angels comprised of friends and family of Angie Sweeney, who was shot dead in Sault Ste. Marieby her ex-boyfriend in October 2023.

WATCH | Warning: This video contains distressing details on the death of Angie Sweeney:

Murdered by her ex. How it couldve been prevented

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Duration 9:30
This video contains distressing details | Angie Sweeneys ex-boyfriend shot and killed her in Sault Ste. Marie, Ont., shortly after she broke up with him last October. CBCs Katie Nicholson breaks down what happened before her murder and what Sweeneys friends, family and the police say couldve helped prevent her death and help other victims of intimate partner violence.

Jennings started his own group, Caitlin's Heard,and has travelled to Queens Park in Toronto to push the Ontariogovernment to declare intimate partner violence an epidemic. Jennings, along with Angie's Angels, was also present when Bill C-332 which criminalizes coercive control in intimate partner relationships unanimously passed in the House of Commons in June.

The need to prevent other families from losing their loved ones to domestic violence has created a camaraderie among families who've experienced such loss, said Jennings, whospoke at the vigil for BreannaBroadfoot in July.

"Nobody else can really understand what we're going through as people who are in the same situation and we've become a nationwide army," he said. "It's unfortunate that our numbers are growing this much because that just shows there's still so much work to do."

Dan Jennings and his wife Michelle speaking at a vigil for Breanna Broadfoot on July 24, 2024. Jennings has become an advocate for ending domestic violence after losing his daughter Caitlin in July 2023.
Dan Jennings and his wife Michelle speak at a vigil for Breanna Broadfoot on July 24. Jennings has become an advocate for ending domestic violence after losing his daughter Caitlin in July 2023. (Isha Bhargava/CBC)

Linda Davidson's 30-year-old daughter, Tiffany Gates, was killed by her boyfriend, who then killed himself, in September 2023.

Last week, Davidson expressed relief that after a year of her consistent advocacy, London police havevowed to be more transparent when releasing information about intimate partner violence cases and naming offenders insuch incidents.

Davidson, who lives in Niagara Falls, Ont., said that since Gates's death, many people in abusive relationships have reached out to her and shared their stories.

Davidson wants to see education on relationships be taught in school curriculums. She believes this can teach young people about what is and isn'tacceptable in relationships and how to recognize signs of abuse.

"I could honestly say becauseof Tiff that a few people got out of violent situations with their partners, so it does give me a sense of justice," she said. "Even if I saved one girl, it's so worth it."

After a murder-suicide almost a year ago, London Police are reviewing how they inform the public about such tragedies. Linda Davidson is the mother of Tiffany Gates, a woman murdered by her boyfriend -- a piece of information Davidsonfought to get released.

If you or someone you know is struggling, here's where to get help:

For anyone affected by family or intimate partner violence, there is support available throughcrisis lines and local support services. If you're in immediate danger or fear for your safety or that of others around you, please call 911.

In London,support is also availablethroughAnova,Atlohsa Native Family Healing Services,London Abused Women's Centre,Regional Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Treatment Centre, andVictim Services of Middlesex-London.