Love in the time of coronavirus: What happens to romance and relationships amid a global pandemic?

Depending on where your romantic life was about 2 weeks ago, when in one afternoon the world shifted under our feet, you may find yourself in one of a few, very strangecircumstances.

You may be single and wondering how you'll ever meet someone now that the prime minister is holding daily press conferences calling on Canadians to stay two metres apart.

If you're quarantined with a partner, you're now confronted with their presence for almost 24 hours a daysuddenly, painfully, hyper-aware of their phone voice, loud typingand the petty drama that unfolds in their virtual work meetings.

The coronaviruspandemic has forced us out of public spaces and into our homes, intensifying feelings of lonelinessand amplifying a desire for human connection. For some, the forced togetherness isalso testing the strength of relationships facing new anxieties and strains.

They include Morgan Golbeck, 30, who is now working from home in her one-bedroom Vancouver apartment with her partner of eight years.

"The first day we worked together we got in a fight within the first two hours.Itwas just like, we don't know how to do this," she said.

"Honestly, this is probably the most amount of time we've spent together inever."

But while there are obvious challenges in this eraof physical distancing in which we're literally instructed by officials to stay apart it doesn't have to mean the end of intimacy or the end of a relationship, says Erin Davidson, a Vancouver-based counsellor specializingin sex therapy.

"Great relationships work through distance, closenessand each person being independent," she said.

Together apart

For you singles, if you're wondering when or if you'll ever date again, the data shows that lots of people are still doing it.

Dating app Bumble has seen a 42 per cent spike over the past week among people aged 18 to 22. Use of itsvideo call feature has soared by 21 per cent in the same time period, with a 36 per cent increase in messages sent and users reporting a higher "quality" of chats.

If you're planning a virtual date, Davidson suggests having a glass of wine, playing an online board game, watching a show together, or answering the New York Times'36 Questions That Lead to Love.

The guidance for couples who don't live together is less clear. If both people live alone, work from home, and practice physical distancing, is it still OK to shuttle between each other's places?

IsaacBogoch, an infectious disease physician in Toronto, said those visits should be limited "as much as possible."

"Having said that, there's going to be certain situations where people truly need help either mental, emotional, physical," he said.

As for those who live togetheroften in cramped spaces, perhaps also balancing childcare, homeschooling, and increased stress around health and finances Davidson said it's important to normalize that this period will be stressful, and develop a plan to deal with inevitable fights when emotions aren't running high.

"Communicate what your needs are whether it's turning off the news, having some alone time or, even, in a very small apartment, moving to a different couch," she said.

Golbeck said noise-cancelling headphones have been "a dream"while working in a small space, while drawing a clear distinction between each others' workspaces has helped set boundaries.

But she also said the closeness between her and her partner has forced them to resolve disagreements faster, and they've gained new understandings of each other.

"I'm a kind of a goofy, not serious person, so for him to watch me be in work mode, he's never seen melike that before,"she said.

"It's really been cool to learnhow to respect each other's space in a weird way that we've never had to do before ... Respecting each other's independence at home is very different than respecting the other person's independence when the other person isn't in your space."

Um, what about sex?

A lot about coronavirus isn't completely understood. But it's nota sexually transmitted disease you're more likely to spread it through kissing.

Davidson said while the time may not be right to explorenew partners, your sex life doesn't have to be put on hold.

"It'sa good time for consensual sexting, whether that's videoor text.It can be a really great way to explore interests or fantasies that you have on your own terms.It's also a great place to have some fun and practise asking for what you want sexually," she said.

Davidson explained everyone has different accelerators and brakes for sexual desire and like cars different sensitivities to those brakes and accelerators.

For most people, she said, stress and anxietyfor example, the kind triggered by a global pandemic and pending economic doom put a pretty major brake on a desire for sex, and that's OK.

"We're all different, and it's all normal," she said.